Resilience Resources…

“You all know that I have been sustained throughout my life by three saving graces – my family, my friends, and a faith in the power of resilience and hope. These graces have carried me through difficult times and they have brought more joy to the good times than I ever could have imagined.” ~ Elizabeth Edwards

Please take a moment to watch the video below. It will provide you with hope and context for a wonderful new way forward. Be sure to complete your Journal of Grace in the next 7 days. God Bless, Team Grace


Selected Text From Grieve With Grace™…

Following, I have extracted a small portion of Chapter 5 of Grieve With Grace for your benefit. Enjoy!

It’s not that purpose cures grief, it’s that a heightened State of Grace leads to a heightened sense of purpose.

This means that stone by stone, we must build the archway of Grace over the valley of dread, and feelings of great loss.

Towards this end, each morning I read what I had taped to my mirror…

I am Grateful for what I had…

I am Grateful for what I have…

I am Grateful for all I may receive.

Gratitude is not at all aspirational, it is foundational to the next building block to Grace: Resilience.

Without Gratitude, it is not possible to become resilient. They are conjoined.

“Aus der Kriegsschule des Lebens. Was mich nicht umbringt, macht mich stärker,” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

Which can be translated as “Out of life’s school of war—what doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger.”

You have heard this quote your entire life. It is one of those truisms that is actually true.

Each time you face adversity, every time you are knocked down, you have a choice to give up or get up.

With the loss of a loved one, facing adversity means being aware that, against all your hopes, prayers, and wishes, your life has changed. And, it means accepting this tragic change for what it is, even though it isn’t what you want.

Where Gratitude opens your heart back up to the gifts of life, Resiliency focuses your mind on the possibility that you can and will make the remaining years of your life the best you can, even if you don’t know what that means yet—or how to even get the ball rolling.

Gratitude is about mental awareness. Resilience is about mental toughness.

The more Resilient you become, the better able you are to overcome the loss of love and to deal with the next setback in life’s eternal quest for meaning and purpose.

In fact, we must learn to keep the classic definition of resilience at top of mind: Adapting in the face of adversity. To be clear… Psychologists define resilience as the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress—such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; mental toughness.

I would love to tell you there is another way, but there isn’t. The best I can do is help you understand its importance, and let you take it from there. Jan and I were already “hyper-resilient”. Our life was full of blessings and challenges.

We made and lost fortunes, and worked our butts off to make them back again. Figuratively and actually, we loved the rollercoaster life. We became mentally tough. We fought our adversaries ruthlessly and loved unconditionally.

In some cases, our adversaries became our best friends, proving Abe Lincoln’s observation that the quickest way to defeat an enemy is to love them.

No question, you can’t be a friend and enemy at the same time. Think about it.

We were eternally optimistic and had that “all-knowing eye” visionaries are blessed with. We were pioneers and had arrows in our backs to prove it. Most of all we had memories.

Marvelous memories.

Beautiful memories of every nature: family, adventures, building businesses, travel, and most importantly, our loving memories of our life journey together. These memories will never be forgotten or replaced.

Our legacy of a large family will see to that. And like all large families, there are tremendous “challenges” and opportunities—challenges that sometimes tested our patience to the core.

In retrospect, helping our kids and grandkids learn how to fail forward, to bounce back from both the small iterations of life and the cataclysmic issues within the family was a responsibility we took seriously.

My view is that it is not enough for you to become resilient. You must build the resilience of everyone around you, friends, families, and coworkers. When you do, your journey from grieving to a life of new purpose becomes possible.

But if you fold under the weight of anger, betrayal, and depression, the golden road to purpose becomes that long road out of Eden that leads to a life of misery.




To Grieve With Grace means you will heal With Grace.

By combining Resilience with Gratitude.

Today, doing what I love gives me a grateful heart. I feel her beside me as I chronicle the love lost, and Resilience gained. I miss her more than you can imagine.

The stillness of the nights without her has dulled my senses. But, maybe for the first time in forever, I clearly know what I don’t want. I refuse to live in despair. And although I may not yet clearly know myself well enough to know what I do want, I am willing to move in that general direction.

Therefore, I choose to live my best life possible for the remaining years of my life. I have chosen to Grieve With Grace and I feel like part of her is still alive.

We now have two stones set in our beautiful archway. We are about to set the center stone, Authenticity. In a time of great sorrow, it is critical that you do not lose yourself in someone else’s life. You must be authentically you. When we wrote Success On Purpose, the follow-on to Rick Warren’s Purpose Driven Life, we found that the people who were living their own authentic values—not values imposed 30 years before by a well-meaning teacher, coach, professor, or someone else—found enduring success. The folks who adopted someone else’s values were unwittingly living someone else’s life, not their own.

They never even got to the starting point of happiness, satisfaction, and significance.

We will discuss this later. But I mention this because being the real YOU is the keystone to living a Graceful life on the other side of the stream of tears.

Grief or Grace is a choice. Choose wisely.


Moving Beyond Acceptance…

Now, we would like to guide your thinking here, giving you some specific ideas for actions you can use immediately. You can answer them personally, or use them as discussion group questions.

They have been crafted to condense all the big points into actionable bits of great information!

Remember, to build your bridge of Grace you must move beyond merely accepting your loss.

You must also accept responsibility for life after grief.

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Appendix Listings For The Curious & Committed…

As promised, we have included several valuable resources here to help you move from grief and move your life toward Grace. My goal is to give you the information and tools you need to overcome that “stuck” feeling you might find yourself in. In researching the field of advice to help you move from merely accepting grief vs. accepting your personal responsibility to grow forward, I discovered a wealth of information you might find very comforting or completely useless.

I understand.

My readers may want to understand the scientific aspects of this subject. Some will take my conclusions on the surface, others may want something of a professional bibliography. I decided to take a simple approach and give you a few select articles to help you better understand the practical science behind Grieve With Grace. Many of the articles are very complex and scholarly reviews of each of our 5 keywords.

I selected a few that I thought were easy to read yet give you the full flavor of the topic. If you are a professional Grief Counselor you will already have your own knowledge base, but will find clarity in the references below. If you are a person who is interested in becoming a Grace Counselor, the following will give you a platform for understanding.

Article 1 Below: Building Your Resilience
Article 2 Below: The 7 Cs of Resilience
Article 3 Below: Developing Resilience
Article 4 Below: 10 Ways to Boost Your Resilience




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Article 1: Building Your Resilience

The Road to Resilience

We all face trauma, adversity, and other stresses. Here’s a roadmap for adapting to life-changing situations, and emerging even stronger than before.

Imagine you’re going to take a raft trip down a river. Along with slow water and shallows, your map shows that you will encounter unavoidable rapids and turns. How would you make sure you can safely cross the rough waters and handle any unexpected problems that come from the challenge?

Perhaps you would enlist the support of more experienced rafters as you plan your route or rely on the companionship of trusted friends along the way. Maybe you would pack an extra life jacket or consider using a stronger raft. With the right tools and supports in place, one thing is sure: You will not only make it through the challenges of your river adventure. You will also emerge a more confident and courageous rafter.

What is resilience?

Life may not come with a map, but everyone will experience twists and turns, from everyday challenges to traumatic events with more lasting impact, like the death of a loved one, a life-altering accident, or a serious illness. Each change affects people differently, bringing a unique flood of thoughts, strong emotions and uncertainty. Yet people generally adapt well over time to life-changing situations and stressful situations—in part thanks to resilience.

Psychologists define resilience as the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress—such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. As much as resilience involves “bouncing back” from these difficult experiences, it can also involve profound personal growth.

While these adverse events, much like rough river waters, are certainly painful and difficult, they don’t have to determine the outcome of your life. There are many aspects of your life you can control, modify, and grow with. That’s the role of resilience. Becoming more resilient not only helps you get through difficult circumstances, it also empowers you to grow and even improve your life along the way.

What resilience isn’t

Being resilient doesn’t mean that a person won’t experience difficulty or distress. People who have suffered major adversity or trauma in their lives commonly experience emotional pain and stress. In fact, the road to resilience is likely to involve considerable emotional distress.

While certain factors might make some individuals more resilient than others, resilience isn’t necessarily a personality trait that only some people possess. On the contrary, resilience involves behaviors, thoughts, and actions that anyone can learn and develop. The ability to learn resilience is one reason research has shown that resilience is ordinary, not extraordinary. One example is the response of many Americans to the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks and individuals’ efforts to rebuild their lives after tragedy.

Like building a muscle, increasing your resilience takes time and intentionality. Focusing on four core components—connection, wellness, healthy thinking, and meaning—can empower you to withstand and learn from difficult and traumatic experiences. To increase your capacity for resilience to weather—and grow from—the difficulties, use these strategies.

Build your connections

Prioritize relationships. Connecting with empathetic and understanding people can remind you that you’re not alone in the midst of difficulties. Focus on finding trustworthy and compassionate individuals who validate your feelings, which will support the skill of resilience.

The pain of traumatic events can lead some people to isolate themselves, but it’s important to accept help and support from those who care about you. Whether you go on a weekly date night with your spouse or plan a lunch out with a friend, try to prioritize genuinely connecting with people who care about you.

Join a group. Along with one-on-one relationships, some people find that being active in civic groups, faith-based communities, or other local organizations provides social support and can help you reclaim hope. Research groups in your area that could offer you support and a sense of purpose or joy when you need it.

Foster wellness

Take care of your body. Self-care may be a popular buzzword, but it’s also a legitimate practice for mental health and building resilience. That’s because stress is just as much physical as it is emotional. Promoting positive lifestyle factors like proper nutrition, ample sleep, hydration, and regular exercise can strengthen your body to adapt to stress and reduce the toll of emotions like anxiety or depression.

Practice mindfulness. Mindful journaling, yoga, and other spiritual practices like prayer or meditation can also help people build connections and restore hope, which can prime them to deal with situations that require resilience. When you journal, meditate, or pray, ruminate on positive aspects of your life and recall the things you’re grateful for, even during personal trials.

Avoid negative outlets. It may be tempting to mask your pain with alcohol, drugs, or other substances, but that’s like putting a bandage on a deep wound. Focus instead on giving your body resources to manage stress, rather than seeking to eliminate the feeling of stress altogether.

Find purpose

Help others. Whether you volunteer with a local homeless shelter or simply support a friend in their own time of need, you can garner a sense of purpose, foster self-worth, connect with other people, and tangibly help others, all of which can empower you to grow in resilience.

Be proactive. It’s helpful to acknowledge and accept your emotions during hard times, but it’s also important to help you foster self-discovery by asking yourself, “What can I do about a problem in my life?” If the problems seem too big to tackle, break them down into manageable pieces.

For example, if you got laid off at work, you may not be able to convince your boss it was a mistake to let you go. But you can spend an hour each day developing your top strengths or working on your resume. Taking initiative will remind you that you can muster motivation and purpose even during stressful periods of your life, increasing the likelihood that you’ll rise up during painful times again.

Move toward your goals. Develop some realistic goals and do something regularly—even if it seems like a small accomplishment—that enables you to move toward the things you want to accomplish. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, “What’s one thing I know I can accomplish today that helps me move in the direction I want to go?” For example, if you’re struggling with the loss of a loved one and you want to move forward, you could join a grief support group in your area.

Look for opportunities for self-discovery. People often find that they have grown in some respect as a result of a struggle. For example, after a tragedy or hardship, people have reported better relationships and a greater sense of strength, even while feeling vulnerable. That can increase their sense of self-worth and heighten their appreciation for life.

Embrace healthy thoughts

Keep things in perspective. How you think can play a significant part in how you feel—and how resilient you are when faced with obstacles. Try to identify areas of irrational thinking, such as a tendency to catastrophize difficulties or assume the world is out to get you, and adopt a more balanced and realistic thinking pattern. For instance, if you feel overwhelmed by a challenge, remind yourself that what happened to you isn’t an indicator of how your future will go, and that you’re not helpless. You may not be able to change a highly stressful event, but you can change how you interpret and respond to it.

Accept change. Accept that change is a part of life. Certain goals or ideals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations in your life. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can alter.

Maintain a hopeful outlook. It’s hard to be positive when life isn’t going your way. An optimistic outlook empowers you to expect that good things will happen to you. Try visualizing what you want, rather than worrying about what you fear. Along the way, note any subtle ways in which you start to feel better as you deal with difficult situations.

Learn from your past. By looking back at who or what was helpful in previous times of distress, you may discover how you can respond effectively to new difficult situations. Remind yourself of where you’ve been able to find strength and ask yourself what you’ve learned from those experiences.

Seeking help

Getting help when you need it is crucial in building your resilience.

For many people, using their own resources and the kinds of strategies listed above may be enough for building their resilience. But at times, an individual might get stuck or have difficulty making progress on the road to resilience.

licensed mental health professional such as a psychologist can assist people in developing an appropriate strategy for moving forward. It is important to get professional help if you feel like you are unable to function as well as you would like or perform basic activities of daily living as a result of a traumatic or other stressful life experience. Keep in mind that different people tend to be comfortable with different styles of interaction. To get the most out of your therapeutic relationship, you should feel at ease with a mental health professional or in a support group.

The important thing is to remember you’re not alone on the journey. While you may not be able to control all of your circumstances, you can grow by focusing on the aspects of life’s challenges you can manage with the support of loved ones and trusted professionals.


APA gratefully acknowledges the following contributors to this publication:

  • David Palmiter, PhD, Professor of Psychology at Marywood University, Scranton, Penn.
  • Mary Alvord, PhD, Director, Alvord, Baker & Associates, Rockville, Md.
  • Rosalind Dorlen, PsyD, Member: Allied Professional Staff, Department of Psychiatry Overlook Medical Center, Summit, NJ; Senior Faculty, Center for Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis of New Jersey and Field Supervisor at the Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology, Rutgers University.
  • Lillian Comas-Diaz, PhD, Director, Transcultural Mental Health Institute, Washington, D.C.
  • Suniya S. Luthar, PhD, Teachers College, Columbia University, New York City, N.Y.
  • Salvatore R. Maddi, PhD, The Hardiness Institute, Inc., University of California at Irvine, Newport Beach, Calif.
  • H. Katherine (Kit) O’Neill, PhD, North Dakota State University and Knowlton, O’Neill and Associates, Fargo, N.D.
  • Karen W. Saakvitne, PhD, Traumatic Stress Institute/Center for Adult & Adolescent Psychotherapy, South Windsor, Conn.
  • Richard Glenn Tedeschi, PhD, Department of Psychology, University of North Carolina at Charlotte


Article 2: The 7 Cs of Resilience

Dr Ginsburg, child paediatrician and human development expert, proposes that there are 7 integral and interrelated components that make up being resilient – competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping and control. Each of these 7 C’s are explained briefly here and in our child and youth resilience group program, our sessions have been crafted carefully in order to include content and group processes that will enhance each and every one of the 7 C’s.

1. Competence – is the ability to know how to handle stressful situations effectively. It requires having the skills to face challenges, and having had the opportunity to practice using these skills so that one feels competent in dealing with situations. Our groups offer stress-reduction and social skills training and by learning these skills in a group of similar aged peers, provides the opportunity for your child to practice these skills, and enhance their competence.

2. Confidence – is the belief in one’s own abilities and is rooted in competence. Children gain confidence by being able to demonstrate their competence in real situations. Our groups enhance self-confidence by identifying each child’s individual strengths and when children are noticed for their strengths, watch them soar high and be self-motivated to overcome their challenges.

3. Connection – children with close ties to friends, family, and community groups are likely to have a stronger sense of security and sense of belonging. These children are more likely to have strong values and are less likely to seek out alternative destructive behaviours. In our groups, we foster a sense of belonging and we discuss ways your children can strengthen their ties by being a good friend, a caring family member, and an important community member.

4. Character – children with “character” enjoy a strong sense of self-worth and confidence. They are in touch with their values and are comfortable sticking to them. They can demonstrate a caring attitude towards others. They have a strong sense of right and wrong and are prepared to make wise choices and contribute to the world. Our groups aim to strengthen character through enhancing self-esteem with our strengths-based work, and by teaching skills of empathy and caring for others. In our youth group, teenagers are empowered to recognise that they have the ability to make choices and that they can make “wise” choices towards their values rather than away from their values.

5. Contribution – if children can experience personally contributing to the world, they can learn the powerful lesson that the world is a better place because they are in it. Hearing the thank you’s and appreciation when your child contributes, will increase their willingness to take actions and make choices that improve the world, thereby enhancing their own competence, character, and sense of connection. In our groups, there will be time for your child to explore how they can contribute and matter in this world. In our parent group session we give lots of ideas on projects that families may be able to do together in order to experience the power of contributing.

6. Coping – children who have a wide repertoire of coping skills (social skills, stress reduction skills) are able to cope more effectively and are better prepared to overcome life’s challenges. Our resilience groups teach both stress-reduction skills and social skills for coping with everyday life stresses.

7. Control – when children realise that they have control over their decisions and actions, they are more likely to know how to make choices in a way that they can bounce back from life’s challenges. Our groups aim to provide children a sense that they have choices – on how they wish to think and act, and that they can determine results based on these choices.

Watch for my next blog that will offer you guiding questions to reflect whether your parenting is providing the 7 C’s of resilience for your children.

Written by Dr Karen Gallaty – clinical and principal psychologist at the CBT Professionals Psychology Clinic. Karen has developed a unique child and youth group program targeted at building resilient kids especially for families of the Gold Coast community. Follow the link here for more information on our resilience Groups program.

CBT Professionals are a team of clinical psychologists on the Gold Coast with offices in Coomera and Nerang. Gold Coast CBT psychologists offer services to adults, children, and couples.

Disclaimer: Content on this website is provided for education and information purposes only and is not intended to replace advise from your doctor or registered health professional. Readers are urged to consult their registered practitioner for diagnosis and treatment for their medical concerns.


Article 3: Developing Resilience

Overcoming and Growing From Setbacks

Developing Resilience - Overcoming and Growing from Setbacks

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Find the strength to keep going.

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.– American inventor, Thomas Edison

According to legend, Thomas Edison made thousands of prototypes of the incandescent light bulb before he finally got it right. And, since the prolific inventor was awarded more than 1,000 patents, it’s easy to imagine him failing on a daily basis in his lab at Menlo Park.

In spite of struggling with “failure” throughout his entire working life, Edison never let it get the best of him. All of these “failures,” which are reported to be in the tens of thousands, simply showed him how not to invent something. His resilience gave the world some of the most amazing inventions of the early 20th century, such as the phonograph, the telegraph, and the motion picture.

It’s hard to imagine what our world would be like if Edison had given up after his first few failures. His inspiring story forces us to look at our own lives – do we have the resilience that we need to overcome our challenges? Or do we let our failures derail our dreams? And what could we accomplish if we had the strength not to give up?

In this article, we’ll examine resilience: what it is, why we need it, and how to develop it; so that we have the strength and fortitude to overcome adversity, and to keep on moving forward towards our dreams and our goals.

The Importance of Resilience

Resilience (or resiliency) is our ability to adapt and bounce back when things don’t go as planned. Resilient people don’t wallow or dwell on failures; they acknowledge the situation, learn from their mistakes, and then move forward.

According to the research of leading psychologist, Susan Kobasa, there are three elements that are essential to resilience:

  1. Challenge – Resilient people view a difficulty as a challenge, not as a paralyzing event. They look at their failures and mistakes as lessons to be learned from, and as opportunities for growth. They don’t view them as a negative reflection on their abilities or self-worth.
  2. Commitment – Resilient people are committed to their lives and their goals, and they have a compelling reason to get out of bed in the morning. Commitment isn’t just restricted to their work – they commit to their relationships, their friendships, the causes they care about, and their religious or spiritual beliefs.
  3. Personal Control – Resilient people spend their time and energy focusing on situations and events that they have control over. Because they put their efforts where they can have the most impact, they feel empowered and confident. Those who spend time worrying about uncontrollable events can often feel lost, helpless, and powerless to take action.

Another leading psychologist, Martin Seligman, says the way that we explain setbacks to ourselves is also important. (He talks in terms of optimism and pessimism rather than resilience, however, the effect is essentially the same.) This “explanatory style” is made up of three main elements:

  • Permanence – People who are optimistic (and therefore have more resilience) see the effects of bad events as temporary rather than permanent. For instance, they might say “My boss didn’t like the work I did on that project” rather than “My boss never likes my work.”
  • Pervasiveness – Resilient people don’t let setbacks or bad events affect other unrelated areas of their lives. For instance, they would say “I’m not very good at this” rather than “I’m no good at anything.”
  • Personalization – People who have resilience don’t blame themselves when bad events occur. Instead, they see other people, or the circumstances, as the cause. For instance, they might say “I didn’t get the support I needed to finish that project successfully,” rather than “I messed that project up because I can’t do my job.”

In our Expert Interview with Dr. Cal Crow, the co-founder and Program Director of the Center for Learning Connections, Dr. Crow identified several further attributes that are common in resilient people:

  • Resilient people have a positive image of the future. That is, they maintain a positive outlook, and envision brighter days ahead.
  • Resilient people have solid goals, and a desire to achieve those goals.
  • Resilient people are empathetic and compassionate, however, they don’t waste time worrying what others think of them. They maintain healthy relationships, but don’t bow to peer pressure.
  • Resilient people never think of themselves as victims – they focus their time and energy on changing the things that they have control over.

How we view adversity and stress strongly affects how we succeed, and this is one of the most significant reasons that having a resilient mindset is so important.

The fact is that we’re going to fail from time to time: it’s an inevitable part of living that we make mistakes and occasionally fall flat on our faces. The only way to avoid this is to live a shuttered and meager existence, never trying anything new or taking a risk. Few of us want a life like that!


Article 4: 10 Ways to Boost Your Resilience


What is personal resilience and how can it help us to better cope with stress? Here are 10 steps that will build your resilience and promote personal well-being and mental health.

The ability to ‘bounce back’ from a setback is known as resilience and is defined as the ability to successfully adapt to difficult or challenging life experiences.

Although it is accepted that individuals react to stress in different ways, research suggests that resilience is a skill that can be learned and sustained in both personal and professional contexts. By increasing our levels of resilience, we become more flexible mentally, emotionally and, consequently, learn to adapt and better cope with workplace stress.

Follow these steps to help you to become more resilient:

  1. Seek support
    Make connections with people who can provide social support such as friends, employees and mentors. Good relationships with close family members, friends, or others are important and accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you strengthens resilience.
  2. See setbacks as temporary
    Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable and maintain a long-term view toward the future. You can’t change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you interpret and respond to these events. Try looking beyond the present to how future circumstances may be a little better. Note any subtle ways in which you might already feel somewhat better as you deal with difficult situations.
  3. Embrace change
    Accept that change (and the need to adapt to it) is part of day-to-day life. Certain goals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can change.
  4. Set realistic goals
    Focus on small steps and realistic goals that can be accomplished regularly, even if it seems like a small achievement. These help enable you to move toward your goals. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, “What’s one thing I know I can accomplish today that will help me move in the direction I want to go?”
  5. Take action
    Take decisive action rather than wishing problems away. Don’t let your problems cripple you to the point of inertia or inaction. Take any action that moves you forward even if it is only a small step.
  6. Be flexible
    Begin by learning how to compromise with your colleagues. The sooner you learn that your way isn’t the only way, the sooner you will see how to move through a stressful crisis. It may be inflexible thinking that got you into that stressful crisis in the first place.
  7. Look for opportunities for self-discovery
    People often learn something about themselves and may find that they have grown in some respect as a result of their struggle with loss. Many people who have experienced tragedies and hardship have reported better relationships, greater sense of strength even while feeling vulnerable, increased sense of self-worth, a more developed spirituality and heightened appreciation for life.
  8. Nurture an attitude of gratitude
    Nurture a positive view of yourself that allows you to trust your instincts. Before going to bed at night make a mental list of everything you have to be grateful for. Gratitude is one of the basic underpinnings of contentment and stress resilience.
  9. Maintain perspective
    Even when facing very difficult events, try to consider the stressful situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion.
  10. Take care of yourself
    Pay attention to your own needs and feelings. Engage in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing and exercise regularly. Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body primed to deal with situations that require resilience. These activities not only help you relax after a stressful day, they help make you more impervious to stress in the future.

Ultimately, resilience is often about accepting stressful situations as ‘opportunities’ for you to build your own character and grow as a person. Stress builds character and exercises your problem-solving ability. Seeing stress as an opportunity, and then learning how to cope and manage it, will allow you to appreciate life more, enjoy challenges and overcome obstacles that only temporarily block your way.