Love With Grace™: Effort

“Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it nothing great was ever achieved.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Effort Is About One Question…

Is it worth it?

There is no question that I will be spending my Time, Talent, and Treasure in pursuit of love.

What do I expect…

And is that investment worth the risk…

And is the risk worth the effort?

Finding a way forward is always a matter of risk assessment. Is the reward worth the effort expended?

If not, no go.

If yes, go big!

To love and be loved again is the ultimate reward, well worth the risk and well worth the effort.

Exposing yourself and your feelings to a complete stranger is risky… and hard.

Being enthused and excited about engaging in the pursuit is a heart-based calculation that only you can do.

How much effort are you willing to expend in doing everything you need to do… to show off the real you in the best way possible… how far are you willing to go?

Vision Overcomes Effort…

I stuck the silly blond with angel wings as the side photo because my vision for a future relationship will include a good person, not an angel, that is a little flighty.

A woman who smiles, loves, and shows the real person behind the persona everyone might see. Authentically, 24-7-365.

My thought is that having a clear vision of the target doesn’t reduce the effort but gives you motivation for putting forth the energy necessary to do everything necessary to make the vision a reality.

No question, hunting, finding, fishing, and catching—all VERBS—require effort. Sometimes the effort is huge, sometimes minuscule.

I bring this up as an observation, not an actionable idea!

Many of my readers will wonder why I even would think such a thought. You wake up, get going, and put forth the effort necessary to make it through the day.

If you find love, great.

If you don’t, you keep on moving.

But I keep reflecting back on the key to being a savvy investor.

Investing your Time… your Talent… and your Treasure… in a way that produces not just Legendary Wealth… but Legendary Happiness… is the objective.

At my age or any age really, we have limited Time… Time that dwindles away like the flickering of the ever-shorter burning candle.

Sharpening your Talents gets a bit harder as you age. Call it losing your edge, or just having less energy to invest.

And investing a lot of Treasure to find the love of your life doesn’t really make any sense.

No question, Legendary Happiness is what we all crave…

Money will not buy happiness… but it will buy a boat… is a great piece of good old “country advice”. However, in the end, you just can’t get a return of love for bucks unless you participate in the world’s oldest profession.

Yes, hunting, finding, hoping, dreaming, doing, and getting all require effort.

Clinically, going through life with gusto is worth the effort.

Finding a way to love and be loved again is worth the effort.

I just need to remember this article when the going gets rough and what I’m doing just doesn’t seem to be worth the effort.

Or working.

Or seems to be moving me in the wrong direction… even though I am making great speed!

Just putting down my thoughts here clarified the road ahead.

Fish in the right pond.

Hunt in the right field.

Learn to take glee from rejection—you WILL be rejected… and you WILL reject—accept it!

Love trumps Effort ten-thousandfold.

But always remember—Never confuse effort with results!
Eric Richard Haas

Grace Note: We cannot simply ignore the effort. But we can be a little more realistic or circumspect about investing our Time, Talent, and Treasure With Grace. Is your effort yielding a great return on your Time?