Love With Grace™: Effort

by | Dec 6, 2022 | Love | 0 comments

“Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it nothing great was ever achieved.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Effort Is About One Question…

Is it worth it?

There is no question that I will be spending my Time, Talent, and Treasure in pursuit of love.

What do I expect…

And is that investment worth the risk…

And is the risk worth the effort?

Finding a way forward is always a matter of risk assessment. Is the reward worth the effort expended?

If not, no go.

If yes, go big!

To love and be loved again is the ultimate reward, well worth the risk and well worth the effort.

Exposing yourself and your feelings to a complete stranger is risky… and hard.

Being enthused and excited about engaging in the pursuit is a heart-based calculation that only you can do.

How much effort are you willing to expend in doing everything you need to do… to show off the real you in the best way possible… how far are you willing to go?

Vision Overcomes Effort…

I stuck the silly blond with angel wings as the side photo because my vision for a future relationship will include a good person, not an angel, that is a little flighty.

A woman who smiles, loves, and shows the real person behind the persona everyone might see. Authentically, 24-7-365.

My thought is that having a clear vision of the target doesn’t reduce the effort but gives you motivation for putting forth the energy necessary to do everything necessary to make the vision a reality.

No question, hunting, finding, fishing, and catching—all VERBS—require effort. Sometimes the effort is huge, sometimes minuscule.

I bring this up as an observation, not an actionable idea!

Many of my readers will wonder why I even would think such a thought. You wake up, get going, and put forth the effort necessary to make it through the day.

If you find love, great.

If you don’t, you keep on moving.

But I keep reflecting back on the key to being a savvy investor.

Investing your Time… your Talent… and your Treasure… in a way that produces not just Legendary Wealth… but Legendary Happiness… is the objective.

At my age or any age really, we have limited Time… Time that dwindles away like the flickering of the ever-shorter burning candle.

Sharpening your Talents gets a bit harder as you age. Call it losing your edge, or just having less energy to invest.

And investing a lot of Treasure to find the love of your life doesn’t really make any sense.

No question, Legendary Happiness is what we all crave…

Money will not buy happiness… but it will buy a boat… is a great piece of good old “country advice”. However, in the end, you just can’t get a return of love for bucks unless you participate in the world’s oldest profession.

Yes, hunting, finding, hoping, dreaming, doing, and getting all require effort.

Clinically, going through life with gusto is worth the effort.

Finding a way to love and be loved again is worth the effort.

I just need to remember this article when the going gets rough and what I’m doing just doesn’t seem to be worth the effort.

Or working.

Or seems to be moving me in the wrong direction… even though I am making great speed!

Just putting down my thoughts here clarified the road ahead.

Fish in the right pond.

Hunt in the right field.

Learn to take glee from rejection—you WILL be rejected… and you WILL reject—accept it!

Love trumps Effort ten-thousandfold.

But always remember—Never confuse effort with results!
Eric Richard Haas


Grace Note: We cannot simply ignore the effort. But we can be a little more realistic or circumspect about investing our Time, Talent, and Treasure With Grace. Is your effort yielding a great return on your Time?



I ain’t rich, but I damn sure wanna be
Workin’ like a dog all day ain’t workin’ for me
I wish I had a rich uncle that’d kick the bucket
And I was sittin’ on a pile like Warren Buffett
I know everybody says money can’t buy happiness
But it could buy me a boat

It could buy me a truck to pull it
It could buy me a Yeti 110 iced down with some silver bullets
Yeah, and I know what they say, money can’t buy everything
Well, maybe so
But it could buy me a boat

Songwriters: Chris Janson / Charles Du Bois

Written by HunrayOne

Eric Richard Haas lost his beautiful wife, Janice, to incurable cancer on January 9, 2022, after 30 wonderful years of marriage. Together they have 5 kids, 9 grandkids, and 8 great-grandkids. Eric (E.R) is the CEO of the TQ Smart family of companies, a serial entrepreneur x22 and author x27 (AKA The Invisible Billionaire) E. R. lives in Palm Springs, CA with his beautiful cat, Kissie



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